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The desire for change
‘I’m not OK.’ ‘This isn’t OK.’ ‘I have to change.’ ‘This has to change.’ ‘I can’t bear how I feel.’ ‘This experience is awful.’
Ever had any of those thoughts?
If so, you and me both, and perhaps seven billion others…
In the moment of that thought there is a deluge of evidence as to why that thought is justified.
And it seems very bleak and hopeless indeed. It seems this self has to somehow find the way to change itself or its state of mind or its experience or the world.
And that can’t…
Making a difference - the missing chapter in the leadership books
One of the aims that comes up often in our courses is the wish to make a difference…
To be someone
To have impact
To change the world
To be known
To leave a legacy
To make our way into the history books
We could take this at face value…
Most books and courses on productivity, influence, courage, knowledge, experience, effectiveness, impact, vision, charisma, leadership and focus do just that.
They dive straight into the ‘how…?’ without pausing to question in any way the model of reality…
10 ways to tell you are living your true purpose
The importance of our individual purpose here on earth has been identified since the beginning of human thought. It is referred to as 'dharma' in the ancient Indian text the Bhagavad Gita and today it is recognised in the most respected human development research as the key to motivation and fulfilment.
Don't worry if you don't know your purpose.
The very fact that you are reading this is a sign that you are open to discovering it and that it will become clear to you. The following points …
All delusions are equal but some are more equal than others
[Excerpt from SANE, getting real with reality]
There are beliefs that look right because they seem to be endorsed or everyone seems to concur with them.
But apparent ‘rightness’ means nothing more than temporary agreement. All beliefs will eventually dissolve in the face of new information.
It wasn’t so long ago that the earth was flat. Bad smells caused disease. Diamond was the hardest substance. It was physically impossible to fold a piece of paper more than seven times and for something he…
How does it happen?
For Byron Katie it was waking up on the floor of her residential care home watching a cockroach crawl over her foot.
For Jeff Foster it was the point of absolute despair ‘transform or commit suicide. There was no other option.’
For Roger Linden it was on a walk through Hamstead Heath in London ‘one second it was Roger - me - walking along the path, and the next moment it was as if something dissolved. And it took a fraction of a second and it was realised, ‘Oh there is no separate me’.
For Ru…
Confusion
[excerpt from FREE, Getting real with life, unlimited].
Sometimes we can seem so utterly confused that it looks like we have no idea of how to move forward. We don’t even know what to do let alone have the freedom to act on it.
A few years ago, I found myself in a state of total overwhelm. My head was in chaos. I couldn’t sleep or really eat. I couldn’t pretend to be my normal self with friends so I avoided company. I was shaking, exhausted and low. I was looking into the future and all I saw…
Want a Thriving Solo Business?
[Excerpt from EASE].
Maybe you have seen for yourself how sometimes work seems complicated and sometimes straightforward.
Maybe you have questioned how free will can be possible when there is no control over which thoughts come to mind and over which are believed.
Maybe you have seen how everything you think about yourself and what you do can change. And that therefore your nature is pure potential not a fixed limited identity.
Maybe you have noticed the freedom of those moments at work of n…
Ready for it?
Her relief often comes to mind when people describe their dream life. The …
We Are Love
From everything I have read about self and reality over the years, all the teachings I have attended or watched I’m going to take a punt and say that the only thing that seems to be acknowledged across the board is our true nature of unconditional love.
Everything else — consciousness, intelligence, wisdom, non-duality, nothingness, being-ness, formless, form, ego, spirituality, reality — all of that is either under some degree of dispute, or different teachers have different ways of talking ab…
They are love. They are us. We are love.
[Excerpt from 'It's not you... and it's not me']
Finally…
finally…
…we get to meet the other person. Well, as close as possible as it is to meet them.
The perception of them still belongs to us, the perceiver.
But with less and less projection of the innermost needs and insecurities onto them, there is now nothing pushing them away.
With less and less meaning of who they are, there are no barriers between us.
With less and less depending on their responses and feelings about us, their wor…