Who are they really?
Excerpt from 'It's not you... and it's not me'
…we get to meet the other person. Well, as close as possible as it is to meet them.
The perception of them still belongs to us, the perceiver.
But with less and less projection of the innermost needs and insecurities onto them, there is now nothing pushing them away.
With less and less meaning of who they are, there are no barriers between us.
With less and less depending on their responses and feelings about us, their w…
The destruction of what never existed
Syd Banks, the founder of the Three Principles said ‘Every individual is sitting in the midst of mental health. They just don’t realise it.’
Many teachers of non-duality would agree with this. Minds are made of pure consciousness. Witnessing and using concepts and psychological phenomena without being lost in the belief of them is ultimate mental health.
The ‘individual’ that sits in the midst of this ‘mental health’ is believed to be an entity, separate from other individuals and from the…
There is a participant, let’s call her Beth, who has been in our courses for a few years. When I first met her the subject of money was fraught and full of tension. In any interaction to do with money - giving, receiving, earning, requesting, quoting, managing - she would be anxious and panicked. Beliefs about lack and isolation were running wild. She was a fraud. She was irresponsible. She didn’t deserve the money…
That was the lived experience for her. And it looked absolutely true to …
Nourishing the Body
“It is slavery to live in the mind unless it has become part of the body” said Kahlil Gibran.
The words of Gibran, born in 1873 in the Lebanon, are perhaps more relevant today than ever. The mind, this tremendous creative powerhouse, experiences great suffering when it gets lost, believing its own creations. The body, on the other hand, is always in reality, receiving and responding to real time chemical and biological information.
When the mind settles into the reality of the body, m…
The Lab and The Field
In our courses we refer to the two environments in which realisation can occur.
The first is ‘the Lab’.
This is the world of spiritual books, webinars, courses, podcasts, videos and retreats. It is enquiry happening in the luxury of isolation. It is the allowing in of words, theories and ideas and the space of reflection in which they resonate or are rejected. All of it taking place as a relationship between theory and inner felt truth.
The Lab is dedicated study. It is simply the inte…
The Most Profound Perspective Change
I’ve recently started to learn rock climbing and had my first outdoor experience of it on the cliffs in the North of Sicily as part of a group holiday.
Often I would find myself desperately searching for a new foot or hand hold and there would be absolutely nothing available. The situation would look hopeless and I would be on the verge of telling my belay partner that I had to come down.
She was an excellent partner (Shout out to Shing the Great) because she would relentlessly call encour…
One of my favourite books is ‘Conversations on Non-Duality, 26 Awakenings’ in which teachers and authors describe their process of realisation. Each has their own unique experience of a mind and belief system shifting, falling away or aligning to a deeper truth of being.
I call this the Shift.
There is nothing more fascinating to explore because it is the only access to lived reality.
There is nothing more significant for humanity because it marks the end of the handed down trauma of hu…
There are three purposes of life in the form of a particular body mind.
The First Purpose is to experience what we are not.
Aliveness, consciousness, intelligence and unconditional love are absolute, infinite in time and space, beyond definition, beyond concept and are all that exists.
For any experience to occur there has to be a form. Whether this is thought, emotion, mind, body, self or object, the form is by definition limited in time and space.
It cannot be the infinite and absolu…
The Commentary Box
[Excerpt from FREE 'Commentary']
“And here she comes up on the left side. She’s had a bad season so she probably doesn't have it in her. Plus she’s been eating too much chocolate and so she’s not going to even fit in the dress she bought for the event this weekend. AND she’s going to it on her own so not only will she be not fitting into her dress, she will be standing like a lemon in a corner. What she should do now is to not eat and exercise all week. And be better at keeping husbands. Oh l…
It is Slavery to live in the mind…
'It's a Slavery to live in the mind unless it has become part of the body'
This quote from Khalil Gibran might be the most profound, far reaching and sane sixteen words we are lucky enough to have been given.
Such a simple sentence and yet it conveys everything we need to know about human suffering and how it ends.
It is Slavery to live in the mind…
In one powerful word ‘Slavery’ Gibran describes the torture, restriction and compulsion of a life lived from an identified, believing mind.…