Blog
The Shift
One of my favourite books is ‘Conversations on Non-Duality, 26 Awakenings’ in which teachers and authors describe their process of realisation. Each has their own unique experience of a mind and belief system shifting, falling away or aligning to a deeper truth of being.
I call this the Shift.
There is nothing more fascinating to explore because it is the only access to lived reality.
There is nothing more significant for humanity because it marks the end of the handed down trauma of hu…
Three Purposes
There are three purposes of life in the form of a particular body mind.
The First Purpose is to experience what we are not.
Aliveness, consciousness, intelligence and unconditional love are absolute, infinite in time and space, beyond definition, beyond concept and are all that exists.
For any experience to occur there has to be a form. Whether this is thought, emotion, mind, body, self or object, the form is by definition limited in time and space.
It cannot be the infinite and absolu…
The Commentary Box
[Excerpt from FREE 'Commentary']
“And here she comes up on the left side. She’s had a bad season so she probably doesn't have it in her. Plus she’s been eating too much chocolate and so she’s not going to even fit in the dress she bought for the event this weekend. AND she’s going to it on her own so not only will she be not fitting into her dress, she will be standing like a lemon in a corner. What she should do now is to not eat and exercise all week. And be better at keeping husbands. Oh l…
It is Slavery to live in the mind…
'It's a Slavery to live in the mind unless it has become part of the body'
This quote from Khalil Gibran might be the most profound, far reaching and sane sixteen words we are lucky enough to have been given.
Such a simple sentence and yet it conveys everything we need to know about human suffering and how it ends.
It is Slavery to live in the mind…
In one powerful word ‘Slavery’ Gibran describes the torture, restriction and compulsion of a life lived from an identified, believing mind.
…How Love is Veiled
[Excerpt from HOME, the return to what you already are]
In the American version of The Office, two characters Ryan and Kelly have an office romance and after a while it ends. Ryan, reflecting on their relationship post break-up, says of Kelly ‘I’d rather she be alone than with someone else… Is that love…?’
An alien researching the definition of human love according to popular culture might well agree with him.
‘Absolutely Ryan,’ it would say in its alien voice. ‘You are spot on. Love on Pla…
Getting what we want
I am often asked either in interviews or for the podcast, ‘What has changed for you through this conversation?’
There are many things I could say about how every aspect of my life has changed. And similarly, the participants on any of our courses will describe the transformations they have witnessed.
How relationships are unrecognisably easy, how much better they are doing at work, how their anxiety has gone, how things that looked impossible to attempt previously are now done with ease…
T…
The love of our life
[Excerpt from It's not you... and it's not me]
This is not an internet quick fix.
It is not a way to secure the undying love and commitment of the person who we think will make everything OK.
It is not a way to never feel rejected, lonely, sad or isolated.
It is not a way to get them back or to change their minds.
It is an orientation of healing and expansion for the rest of our life.
It is meeting each moment of suffering in its fullness, of seeing what it reveals and how it points…
The Wish List
[Excerpt from FREE, Getting real with life, unlimited]
The music comes on and the three year olds start dancing. Jumping and twirling and laughing and bouncing and falling around. They can’t help it. Because music is playing.
The entire experience of self, life and world is transient and ever-changing.
And this prompts the question: if we realise it is all so fluid why would we bother doing, creating or having anything?
Well, let’s imagine my wish list was: to be a billionaire and super f…
What is really needed?
Excerpt from 'It's not you and it's not me'
In the midst of our suffering, we have a skewed view of what is really needed. And the greater the suffering, the more skewed the need and the more desperate we are to get it.
It looked like I needed the man to make me feel valid and worthy. The only way he could do that would have been by convincing me how much he cared about me, how special I was…
Because then I would feel OK. My self esteem would be intact. My view of the weekend I had just …
DIET [Excerpt from WELL, getting real with mental and physical health]
Let’s look now at diet and health.
We were talking in a small group recently about binge eating. One of the participants told us their eating pattern was totally out of sync with what they want it to be. They were eating junk food every evening and then were full of self blame which then led to more feelings of hopelessness and more binge eating.
What to do about that?
It can look like the way to make the self stable or stop the neediness is through more control of what we’re eating. It ca…