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Mind and Mind Management
[Excerpt from SANE]
Without an understanding of what the mind really is, mind management is just a playing out of confusion.
The self exists as a thought or belief or as a state of mind. It arises in that moment in whatever appearance it takes on. It doesn’t exist outside of that. The idea of who we are is whatever the mind is doing in that moment.
For the self to try to manage the mind creates a false separation and unfulfillable effort. Because self and mind are the same thing. A belief try…
Other People [excerpt from GAME]
[excerpt from GAME]
Now to make The Game ultra-interesting, there are at least seven billion other games going on at the same time.
Each of these games has a main character. We’ll call these other games ‘Their Game’. The other characters are the stars of Their Game. The whole appearance of Their Game is created by their settings. Nothing to do with anyone else.
These other games might intersect with The Only Game That Matters, which is of course the Game of Self. How it looks to us. We’ll cal…
DIET [Excerpt from WELL, getting real with mental and physical health]
Let’s look now at diet and health.
We were talking in a small group recently about binge eating. One of the participants told us their eating pattern was totally out of sync with what they want it to be. They were eating junk food every evening and then were full of self blame which then led to more feelings of hopelessness and more binge eating.
What to do about that?
It can look like the way to make the self stable or stop the neediness is through more control of what we’re eating. It ca…
Who are they really?
Excerpt from 'It's not you... and it's not me'
Finally…
finally…
…we get to meet the other person. Well, as close as possible as it is to meet them.
The perception of them still belongs to us, the perceiver.
But with less and less projection of the innermost needs and insecurities onto them, there is now nothing pushing them away.
With less and less meaning of who they are, there are no barriers between us.
With less and less depending on their responses and feelings about us, their w…
The destruction of what never existed
Syd Banks, the founder of the Three Principles said ‘Every individual is sitting in the midst of mental health. They just don’t realise it.’
Many teachers of non-duality would agree with this. Minds are made of pure consciousness. Witnessing and using concepts and psychological phenomena without being lost in the belief of them is ultimate mental health.
The ‘individual’ that sits in the midst of this ‘mental health’ is believed to be an entity, separate from other individuals and from the…
The Shift
There is a participant, let’s call her Beth, who has been in our courses for a few years. When I first met her the subject of money was fraught and full of tension. In any interaction to do with money - giving, receiving, earning, requesting, quoting, managing - she would be anxious and panicked. Beliefs about lack and isolation were running wild. She was a fraud. She was irresponsible. She didn’t deserve the money…
That was the lived experience for her. And it looked absolutely true to …
The Lab and The Field
In our courses we refer to the two environments in which realisation can occur.
The first is ‘the Lab’.
This is the world of spiritual books, webinars, courses, podcasts, videos and retreats. It is enquiry happening in the luxury of isolation. It is the allowing in of words, theories and ideas and the space of reflection in which they resonate or are rejected. All of it taking place as a relationship between theory and inner felt truth.
The Lab is dedicated study. It is simply the inte…
Three Purposes
There are three purposes of life in the form of a particular body mind.
The First Purpose is to experience what we are not.
Aliveness, consciousness, intelligence and unconditional love are absolute, infinite in time and space, beyond definition, beyond concept and are all that exists.
For any experience to occur there has to be a form. Whether this is thought, emotion, mind, body, self or object, the form is by definition limited in time and space.
It cannot be the infinite and absolu…
The Commentary Box
[Excerpt from FREE 'Commentary']
“And here she comes up on the left side. She’s had a bad season so she probably doesn't have it in her. Plus she’s been eating too much chocolate and so she’s not going to even fit in the dress she bought for the event this weekend. AND she’s going to it on her own so not only will she be not fitting into her dress, she will be standing like a lemon in a corner. What she should do now is to not eat and exercise all week. And be better at keeping husbands. Oh l…
How Love is Veiled
[Excerpt from HOME, the return to what you already are]
In the American version of The Office, two characters Ryan and Kelly have an office romance and after a while it ends. Ryan, reflecting on their relationship post break-up, says of Kelly ‘I’d rather she be alone than with someone else… Is that love…?’
An alien researching the definition of human love according to popular culture might well agree with him.
‘Absolutely Ryan,’ it would say in its alien voice. ‘You are spot on. Love on Pla…